Ali Baba takes on ‘Broken relationship that cannot hurt

Ace comedian Ali Baba talks about the micro dynamics of relationships citing instances of a relationship where one party seem to given more in the relationship yet unable to satisfy the other party involved. He shares his personal own personal experience and how he handled it. Read article below:

‘Need to get some inconsequential thing off my mind, petty as it may seem, it's important to look at some micro dynamics of relationships, to better understand why some people who you benefit nothing from, expect sooooooooo much from you and even have the temerity to, in that same equation of not bringing anything to the table of mutual friendship, be upset for something that don't mean nada!

As as how NA?

Anyway...

Sometimes, I am made, by certain happenings to take a step back, and REALLY look at what I am benefiting from associating with some people. Because come to think of it, you go out of your way to please some people, and because you don't call them to show sympathy at one time, they take offense.

Met a certain fellow, (who I have known from way back, and as far as I remember, and can bet my last dime on, has never done anything for me in all those years I have known him) and I sensed he was cold to me, and it was soon revealed that he was unhappy that I did not PERSONALLY CALL HIM TO SYMPATHIZE with him on an incident he was involved in. In any case, I had seen the incidence mentioned by a common friend and of course, I commented. And my exact comments were, "We Thank God For His mercies".

To be honest, I had heard from another common friend, that this our friend was very upset that I heard that that kind of thing happened to him and I did not call him, to which I replied, "Noooo. Him no fit talk that kind thing. Me and am pally pass like that". And I let it lie. But when I ran into him, recently and his body language and tone in speaking to me was that of "I-dey-vex-and-I-no-get-your-time-because-you-no-call-me-when-I-get-issues"... It sent me down memory lane.

What exactly, was I going to lose by him not talking to me? What were the things, I was going to stop benefitting from, just because of the severed relationship? How broke was this going to make me? Would it seriously dent my image? Or even erase my good will? Will this 'cold war' disrupt my career in many unforeseen ways?... I rolled these questions over and over in my head and while I am yet to see how bad the consequences would be, I have however had second thoughts, maybe I am the one that thinks there is nothing to gain from someone who has always benefitted from you.

Maybe, he served a purpose that I was yet to see. Or maybe, I am the one that underrated our relationship all together.

But in the golden saying of "them no dey know finish"... Bet there is something I still I am not getting. So for now... Trailer park I no see am, you dey ask for the driver.”